Taste your sexuality before letting anyone else!

They looked at me with those eyes as if horns grew out of my head, I only had taken the Vibrator out of my handbag because they asked me to do so. It was one of the times when I felt sad about being the only type of girl in the room.

In this group of mines, we share almost everything. I mean, they know about me that I am a wild one. I masturbate regularly, “I talk about fake orgasms on the internet”; I enjoy sex without condoms (thanks to my vag infection), and I can go on a picnic wearing lingerie (because I did). But none of them are interested in exploring and practicing their sexuality. They always kept their lions in the cage.

Why do they feel so? Uncomforting? It’s not that they are insecure about how they look- I mean ‘they consider themselves fairies. What they restrict themselves from is the touch and feel of their bodies. We can complete our journey from being girls to women without touching ourselves. Whereas boys do not have to worry if they are a boy or a man, they make most of the use of their hands.

One of the girls in the same room said that she doesn’t like to touch herself but will wait for a man to make her feel her body. I don’t blame her. Being a female, you are always expected to treat your body as a temple that is pure and saved for a priest to come one day to let you ride the heaven. At that moment, it made me rethink all the learnings I had. And it reminds me that almost every other girl has the same or similar thoughts about her sexuality.

Well, I was not born this wild. I had my journey, and it took me years to hold my male friends’ hands. I always had been the shy one in terms of any kind of physical contact and physical language with others as well as with myself. With the help of a good friend of mine today I’m here. More than that I’m here to be that friend of others to help them with the same. But what changed me was the moment I realized the lack of knowledge I had about my body and my sexuality, and it was not because I was not an adult. It was because I’m a girl. I was 21 years old when I got to know that the female genital as a whole is Vulva and Vagina is only a part of the Vulva. I mean who doesn’t know that the male genital is a penis?

Sexuality is a natural feature of a living creature. You cannot avoid it forever; your body needs to feel that way. There is no valid reason to repress female sexuality, but it is still in practice. Society has created loopholes by ignoring, demotivating, and forgetting about this topic’s existence. Women need to understand that the man is not the superhero that will come one day to nourish them in the whole universe of sexual and pleasurable feelings. One has to be self-aware before getting involved with others. When a girl doesn’t know about her body how will she manage to get equally involved?

I wanted to leave there only with the question, but the thing is the answer is not known to everybody equally. So, what’s also an important and yet struggling part of a women’s life is to know her body. She needs to practice her sexuality — independently first. It is not and should not be a man’s duty to make her to do so. I mean the market is full of amazing sex toys. Grab and explore them just like you go for every other makeup kit to feel good and confident about yourself. Prepare a list of what you like and what you don’t. Keep the things on your fingertips that make you feel comfortable in your skin. Read books and surf the internet to learn more about your fantasies. Work on your sex life just like you plan every other part of your life. Introduce yourself first to your sexuality before doing it to anyone else.